A ‘prescription’ for when someone says something hurtful to you, that is totally offensive … and you’re just not sure how to respond

A couple of decades ago, while facing some real life interpersonal struggles … a very wise friend said to me, “Jim, there are times when you’ll need to hide your responses in your heart, and give these hurtful circumstances over to the Lord in prayer.”

I’ve been so grateful since then for such Godly counsel! I’ve experienced far less regret, having a rock solid plan for dealing with the vast opportunities for when people have been mean, and when I chose to give it over to the Lord … rather than reacting in the moment badly myself.

The Apostle Paul says in Philippians 3:12-13, “I know how to get along and live humbly [in difficult times], and I also know how to enjoy abundance and live in prosperity. In any and every circumstance I have learned the secret [of facing life], whether well-fed or going hungry, whether having an abundance or being in need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens and empowers me [to fulfill His purpose—I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency; I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him who infuses me with inner strength and confident peace.]”

Some of you may be facing daily situations in which people are being unkind to you, or saying hurtful things for no apparent reason, or are trying to get under your skin knowing that you’re a faithful follower of Christ. My recommendation is to pay attention to what is within your control, and go to the Lord in prayer immediately! Give it to Him, as He can more than handle it. And see if in fact your peace will return to you as you’re not baited into responding in ways you know won’t be helpful.

Paul says in 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, “Rejoice always and delight in your faith; be unceasing and persistent in prayer; in every situation [no matter what the circumstances] be thankful and continually give thanks to God; for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus.” You don’t have to let anyone or anything steal your joy!